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At Peace with Self for the Holidays

The holidays can do one of two things in our life. They can give us a warm fuzzy feeling as we connect with family and friends while extending generosity to others. Or, the holidays can remind us of the situations and circumstances that can make our lives miserable. Perhaps, you have lost a job, or a loved one. Maybe your kids are acting crazy, or you are waiting for a spouse or your car got towed. And to top things off, your hair is doing crazy and unexpected things… Maybe it’s just a matter of not being satisfied with where you are in life right now. You have dreams and visions, but you just can’t seem to get a break. Trust me, I know the feeling! It can be overwhelming at times. We either respond with gratitude or we shut down emotionally.


Self 
Your self is comprised of all the things that make you who you are. It is comprised of your body, mind, thoughts, emotions, desires–basically everything pertaining to you. When situations arise, self is the first one to react and sometimes the last one to let go. Even after the storm has calmed, our self is still not satisfied. Part of being at peace with self is being satisfied with what was and what is. It’s about having gratitude for life.

Taking care of self
A good friend of mine called me the other day and asked, “When’s the last time you did something just for your self?” I was like, “Ummmmm…” It’s so easy, especially during the hustle and bustle of the holidays to neglect self. We sometimes feel like “self” activities, like pampering, eating healthy, exercising or just doing things by yourself, are a waste of time. What we fail to realize is that when self is neglected, it will eventually begin to shut down. Your body will react with health issues, fatigue, skin and hair issues. Your mind and emotions will react with poor concentration, moodiness, depression and low self-esteem. Neglecting self will cause you to not be able to effectively care for the people who depend on you or execute the things you endeavor.

At peace
So, at the end of the day, when the festivities are over and you are alone with self, it’s important to release the good and the bad. It’s important to release and move on because tomorrow is a new day. In everything give thanks. Choose to be at peace.