“Hey! That’s the mom from the Fresh Prince!” Those were my first thoughts when I ran across this story about Janet Hubert’s open letter to Wendy Williams which called her out for being a bully to Whitney Houston over the years and other celebrities as well. Her letter to Wendy states, “How do you sleep at night knowing that you are one of the biggest bullies in the world disguised as HOT TOPICS? Celebrities are not topics we are people, just like everyone else, we hurt and we hear and we bleed real blood, not fake blood, just as you do.”
My second thought was, “Hmmm, wasn’t Janet Hubert just in the media for negative comments about Will Smith and how she was not going to attend the Fresh Prince of Bel-Air reunion?” But, I digress…Ms. Hubert has been receiving both praise and backlash for her comments in the letter. Many have questioned her motives for writing the letter. I don’t know what Janet Hubert’s motives are. This story has certainly gotten my attention for two reasons. For one, she is a beautiful, dark-skinned (yea, I said it), middle-aged African-American natural beauty who is WORKING IT! As an actor, mother, entrepreneur and out-spoken naturalista, Janet is a woman after my own heart. This blog praises that. The second reason this story caught my attention is the issue of gossip and negativity in our society (especially amongst women) which must be addressed.
Somewhere along the way in our society, our moral compass has taken us off-course, and we feel that gossip and slander is okay. Not only is gossip okay, it’s also okay to money off of it. Gossip is defined as: “idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others.” Idle is defined as: “of no real worth, importance, or significance.” So, one might conclude that gossip has no real worth, importance or significance, and therefore we should not waste our time indulging in it. Don’t get me wrong, we are humans and gossip is very titillating. The Wendy Williams Show, TMZ and the like can be very entertaining at times. Plus, sometimes it’s hard to resist listening to a good, juicy, “Girl, did you hear____?”
In my post, What Whitney, Michael and Don Remind Us, I touched on the fact that celebrities are robbed of process of dealing with one’s issues to create inner healing. This process of inner healing is a private process which cannot be done in the public-eye. We, the public do not allow celebrities the opportunity to adequately deal with life situations when it’s plastered on the front page of the Enquirer or discussed irreverently on gossip talk shows.
Janet Hubert is on point with her observations. She states in the letter,
“We need to stop, and the world needs to stop. I need to stop as well. There will be no more quotes from me to be misquoted.” Good for you, Janet!
She also asked the question, “Where are my sisters out there who feel as I do?” I’m waving and screaming, “Over here! Over here!” To paraphrase the Bible, in Romans 14:19, “Let us do and say things that will bring peace and harmony. Let us seek to build each other up not tear one another down.” No one is perfect, and we may not get it 100% right. But, the next time we come in contact with a piece of information about someone let’s think about whether not sharing it will add any value or will it just tear them down.
Please share your thoughts.