Monthly Archives: November 2011

Growth Chronicles Part 1: My experience with hair growth

Big chop 2008 after hair loss

We are starting a new series on hair growth and hair problems. I thought I would kick things off by sharing my hair growth journey and struggles with growth. I really have not measured my hair since my 3rd big chop in 2008. The reason I BC’d in 2008 was because after I experienced a considerable amount of growth in 2006 and 2007 I decided to “reward” myself with a perm. I figured that a perm would allow me maintain my new length and give me that long flowing hair I always dreamed about. Well, my dream turned into a nightmare when ALL the hair in the back of my head fell out after getting the perm, leaving me bald.

Growth in early 2010

There are a number of other factors that could have contributed to my sudden hair loss (alopecia areata). The fact I had had a baby about 6 months earlier and disturbing news about a family member. Fast forward to today, my hair is measuring at about 9 inches on top and 6-7 inches on the sides and back. People ask me all the time, how did you get your hair to growth back?  I don’t claim to be a hair expert. Ignorantly, I did everything right. First, I stopped perming to prevent further damage and scarring. I cut off all the rest of my hair off into a cute style where I faded my hair into the thin area to give the appearance that the baldness was on purpose. I left the ends at the top with a few permed pieces for a funky, spiky look.

Length today–maybe one day I’ll
let the professionals blow it out
really straight. lol

Next, I did something, that I only recently discovered. I massaged my scalp with herbal oil daily. I didn’t even know at the time that essential hair oil massage is a remedy for hair loss. Lastly, I just let time do it’s thing. My hair grew out a lot in 2009, with the back growing much slower. Once, my hair grew out enough to hide the back, I started getting it blown out straight every two weeks. Jump to 2010…I’m pregnant!…again…lol. I will admit. I became extremely lazy with my hair. Wigs were my best friends, then microbraids (which I left in way too long and took down incorrectly). I have made just about every hair mistake imaginable.

Fast forward again, today, my goal is to practice the principles that promote healthy hair and healthy living. We will be sharing more hair mistakes and healthy hair practices and growth remedies. So subscribe and stay tuned!

Length today-in preparation
for a dry twist style

Share your hair growth experiences with us.

A Prayer for the Black Man

In light of recent news concerning tragedies in our community, I decided to write a post addressing the plight of the Black man. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that the future of the Black man is in a state of crisis. The polarity between the black men who are thriving and those are just surviving is widening. And even those who make it seen to be taken out prematurely. As I’ve said before, Love Your Naps is not just about hair, but about loving that part of us that makes us unique. Certainly without the Black man, you would not have the Black woman. We need him, and that is the purpose of this prayer. Enjoy.

A Prayer for the Black Man
Since the beginning, our Adversary has sought to take the Black Man’s life 
To enslave him, to take away his worth
If he couldn’t kill his body, then he would enslave his mind
Lord, grant the Black Man the freedom that he has never really known
Help the Black Man to know that he is loved by you  
Let him know that he is valued 
Let him know that you created him strong– 
That you created him to be a leader, a trendsetter and a caregiver


Teach him to love you 
Lord, be a father to him 
Let him follow your lead as he leads his children  
Let the Black Man no longer feel trapped in a world in which he does not belong– 
In a world in which he does not feel accepted 
Let him no longer struggle in his identity, but let him find his identity in you 


Teach him to love his body 
Let him not forget to nourish his body and his soul
Reverse every curse of death and destruction assigned to his life
Restore his body back to the health and strength you gave him


Restore his house and turn his eyes back to you
Restore the relationships with the women and men you have placed in his life
Let the Black Woman fall in love with the Black Man again
Let his children honor and respect him
Let his sisters be able to trust him
Reunite him with his brothers 
Let them no longer hate each other, but walk in brotherly love
Let him see the god in himself as he sees the god in his brother


Oh, Lord have mercy, for our Adversary has made a mockery of that which you created
Purge the image of the Black Man of these caricatures created by the Evil One
No longer shall The Black Man be synonymous with 
the Gangster, the Player, the Pimp, the Hustler, the Deadbeat 
Lord we declare that you call the Black Man Beautiful, Friend, Man of Valor, Righteous, Redeemed 


Lord, protect the young Black Boy on his journey to becoming a man
Let the promise of Psalm 91 be upon his head and John 3:16 in his heart 
For he shall not be afraid of the terror by night, nor the arrow that flies by day 
Because he has set his love upon you, therefore you will deliver him
And with long life you will satisfy him


And now Lord, we give the Black Man over to you–
His hopes, his fears, his dreams, his destiny
Fulfill your will and divine purpose in him this day
In Jesus name we pray, Amen.

LYN Holiday Giveway! Get a free ticket to Makeup and Martinis Chicago “Holiday Beauty Extravaganza”

We are happy to announce that Love Your Naps has been chosen as a premiere vendor for Makeup and Martinis Chicago‘s upcoming “Holiday Beauty Extravaganza” event!

This giveaway is now closed. Congratulations to our two fabulous winners! 
You can still purchase tickets HERE.

Come and enjoy fabulous cocktails, hors d’oeuvres, raffle prizes, personal consultations and makeovers from beauty professionals and peruse various beauty, fashion and lifestyle vendors. Winners will receive a glamour swag bag to take home!

When: December 3, 2011
Time: 6:30pm – 9pm
Price: $25 (Recommend two or more friends, get entered in raffle for $100 Ultra gift card)
Where: Little Black Pearl Art and Design Center
1060 East 47th Street
Chicago, IL. 60653

Hosted by Radio/TV Personality, Bionce’ Foxx with guest appearance by Kai Morae of the hit reality show, “The Real McCoy”! 

How to enter:
1.You must be a follower of @LoveYourNaps on Twitter.
2. Tweet the following message below:

I entered to win tix to @MUandMartinisCh “Holiday Beauty Extravaganza” Follow @LoveYourNaps & RT to enter. #LYNholidaygiveaway

And, that’s it!

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1. Subscribe to LoveYourNaps.com at the top or bottom of the sidebar

2. “Like” us on facebook.com/LoveYourNaps.

The winner will be randomly selected and we will notify you via Twitter or Facebook if you win.

Contest ends Thursday, November 17th, 2011 at 11:59 pm CST

Refresh Style for Bantu Knot-Out Updo (Also Works as a Protective Style)



I received so many compliments on my hair at the Treasure Our Tresses event (hosted by Eden BodyWorks, The Mane Source and Natural Chica) that I thought I would share how I achieved this style. It’s basically a refresh style from the Bantu knot-out updo I did a couple weeks ago. Talk about making a style last…lol. This is why I love this style so much because my hair is protected and all I have to do is get up and go. All I do at night is tie my head with a scarf–and sleep on it with ease. You can check out the post I mentioned above for a full detail of getting the structure for the style. Here’s how I refreshed it:

1. First of all, I came up with this style because my knot out was looking crazy after a while. My hair was all over the place with no definition. The first version of this style was sort a french roll that went around the top of my head. (Sorry, no pic.) It was basically achieved by rolling and tucking the hair and securing with a hair pin. This works really well when the hair is poofy to give the roll some height.

2. Sides of the head: So fast forward to the event. I took down one side of flat-twist. Then I spray a little water and olive oil mix and LifeOrganics Mane Moisturizer to bring moisture back to that section. I used LifeOrganics Styling Custard to re-flat-twist that section. I went the other side of my head an repeated those steps (while paying attention to symmetry).

3. Now, depending on how fast your hair frizzes up, you may want to reverse steps 3 and 4. Next, I went to the back of my head and sprayed with water and moisturizer. Because my hair is kinky, it holds well, but that also means that it’s a lot thicker. So, starting where the hair meets the last flat-twist, I smoothed up toward the top of my head a small section at a time with LifeOrganics Hair Souffle. I pressed hard and smoothed the hair down with my hands and GENTLY brushed until it looked pretty smooth and then secured that section with a bobby pin at the top. I repeat this step quickly across the back of my head. (Note: kinky hair will not smooth completely straight this way. The looser your curl pattern the straighter it will be. And, note..I’m fine with that!!!)

4. The top of my head: The remaining hair was separated into 4 sections. I sprayed one section at a time, added a finger-full of the souffle and smoothed it through my hair. Next, I gently twisted each section, leaving it kind of poofy. Then, I took the two twists in front and rolled each one back and down and secured it with a hair pin. The two twist in back, I rolled toward the front and secured. Any stray pieces were just smoothed down and tucked in. (Note: There is really no perfect way to do this, just so long at the roll/knot stays down.)

5. Lastly, I tied my head up with a scarf to further smooth down the back. You can apply a dab of gel to the back for extra hold, but the scarf really does all the work. I let the scarf stay on for about a hour while I got dressed.

Let us know what you think of this style and if you plan to try it.