Reality Check #1: Your hair texture is what it is.
Some people seem to think that you can change the texture of your hair by taming it. Here’s the truth. The more you straighten your hair either through blowing drying combing, braiding, etc., the more you break down the natural bond of the hair. So, over time your kinks won’t be so kinky. (Some natural hair purists have a problem with this.) However, you can never change the curl pattern that comes out of your head. Yet, you can make the hair more manageable and softer with moisturizers and deep conditioning. If your hair is tightly coiled, it will never lay down the way someone with wavy or curly hair will lay down. And vice versa, if you have a looser curl pattern, your styles may not last as long as someone with tighter coils. What matters is that your hair is healthy and well conditioned.
Reality Check #2: You may have to try a variety of products before you find the ones that work for your hair.
As I stated before, everyone’s hair type is different. Even if you think you are one hair type (4a, 4b, 4c, etc.), you may have more than one texture in your head. For instance, my hair texture is very tightly coiled and spongy. My edges tend to be a little coarser than the hair on top of my head, and still, there is one slick spot in the back of my back of my head. That “cow lick” gives me problems when I do certain styles that require a tight hold. So, what is a girl to do? Test, test, test. Test out a product on a section of your hair and see what happens. I’ve made the mistake of trying a product that I thought would work only to be disappointed after spending hours on a style that didn’t turn out the way I had intended. But don’t be so uptight, just have fun experimenting. Lastly, find out what are the basic ingredients for the products you’re using. Do you need extra hold? Do you need shine? Do you need hydration? Check back with Love Your Naps for a detailed look at which ingredients do what.
Reality Check #3
ends are not your friend. You might think you have length, but the spilt ends are no good. Split
The most important thing in dealing with split ends is to prevent them from the start. Keeping the hair well moisturized will help prevent split ends. Another thing that helps is keeping the hair covered at night with a silk or satin scarf or hair bonnet. The key is to protect your hair from breakage. Be careful when detangling your hair—whether you are detangling in the shower after washing your hair or taking down a braid style that you’ve had in for a while. When your ends are frayed and split, it creates tangles and knots in the hair which lead to even more breakage and more split ends. They also will make your twist styles and other styles look raggedy. Check back with Love Your Naps for specifics about split end and natural hair.
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